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Coping with special days

Along our grief journeys, there may be certain days that are more difficult others – it may be your loved one’s birthday, the holidays, the anniversary of their death, or around this time of year, Mother’s and Father’s Day.

These “special days” can make the absence of your loved one even more pronounced. No matter how you are grieving, here are some helpful reminders for how to be gentle with yourself and honour your grief during special days.

• Maintain traditions that feel comforting and let go of ones that don’t
• Spend time with people who validate your feelings – both sad and happy.
• Designate time and space for your loss. Talk about the person who died. Share a story about your loved one, light a candle, look at pictures. Embrace your memories.
• It’s okay to laugh. Embrace the moments of joy you might feel and give yourself permission to feel happiness.
• Be honest about your needs. Ask for help and allow yourself to receive it.

Often, the anticipation of a Special Day can be more difficult for grievers than the actual day. Be aware of your feelings and tolerant of your limitations. But most importantly, know that you are not alone.